I'm having a challenging situation with one of my older children.
I don't get it. We went through a rough patch, I want to say a year ago. Maybe even EXACTLY a year ago.
Up until the last two weeks I thought our relationship was probably the best its been.
There were little conversations, plans to get together. Just a really good place. Then out of the blue it changes. No answers to texts or calls.
In retrospect I guess in a way I had a warning. Little things. More falling back with a person from their past that not only treating them badly but drags them down. I then find out they are with that person again. The old behaviors start.
Maybe I am over analyzing. Yes sometimes I do that. I try to figure out if its something "I " did. Truthfully we can't let others blame us for their issues. It's hard --mommy guilt seems to never end. I understand my mother more now, rest her soul!
So what to do. I'm a planner.
Well for starters I didn't wait to hear what "their" plans are. I set Thanksgiving dinner time. I set the afternoon activity I plan to do with Kiera. I set the day I must know if they are coming or not.
Now we shall see come Sunday what happens. That's the day I NEED to know by.
I should pack Kiera up and leave for the weekend of Thanksgiving. I think it may solve a lot of this waffling BS. I hate drama. I don't allow drama to affect our lives. Yet when its our own kids...what to do?!